In my experience this is the hardest thing for my loved ones to grasp because their love for my family and I makes it hard for them to see us in so much pain. Please know that losing a child is a pain that can not be fixed. It is a pain we must carry for the rest of our lives. Grieving is normal and will not go away with time. Our grief and sorrow will ebb and flow as a part of us for the rest of our lives. Don’t try to “fix it” or “make it better”; unless you have the power to bring back my child, you can not take our pain away.
You can be there for us in our time of need; push past your discomfort, your lack of words, and ask us about him. Say his name. Share his story. Acknowledge his life, and his death.
Everett is just as much a part of our family as Jack and Lucas are. He is our 3rd son; another ornery addition to the King crew that anxiously awaits us in Heaven.
Please know that although we may heal and eventually add more children to our crazy King crew, our angel will never be forgotten. His memory will never fade. He will always be counted in our numbers.